Self observation gives potential format (self esteem)

  Self is not links to personal or else public , it is an inner feeling and internal control of our perception and also part of behavior , so it's have different thesis and parts like self esteem  a term used in psychology to reflect a person's overall emotional evaluation of his or her own worth. It is a judgment of oneself as well as an attitude toward the self. Self-esteem encompasses beliefs (for example, "I am competent", "I am worthy") and emotions such as triumph, despair, pride "The self-concept is what we think about the self; self-esteem, is the positive or negative evaluations of the self, as in how we feel about it."

 Self-esteem is also known as the evaluative dimension of the self that includes feelings of worthiness, prides and discouragement. One's self-esteem is also closely associated with self-consciousness. The four types of behaviors of self-esteem are: disclosure, seeking acceptance, engaging in a pastime, and introspection.

Self-esteem is a disposition that a person has which represents their judgments of their own worthiness,and social-learning theorists defined self-esteem as a personal worth or worthiness. Defined self-esteem as "the experience of being competent to cope with the basic challenges of life and being worthy of happiness." self-esteem is the sum of self-confidence (a feeling of personal capacity) and self-respect (a feeling of personal worth). It exists as a consequence of the implicit judgment that every person has of their ability to face life's challenges, to understand and solve problems, and their right to achieve happiness, and be given respect. Self-esteem is affected when individuals know or feel that people of higher authority is watching them. Individuals feel sad and/or distressed when they know their self is inconsistent with what the world expects as the model individual.

As a social psychological construct, self-esteem is attractive because researchers have conceptualized it as an influential predictor of relevant outcomes, such as academic achievement or exercise behavior, In addition, self-esteem has also been treated as an important outcome due to its close relation with psychological well-being. Self-esteem can apply specifically to a particular dimension (for example, "I believe I am a good writer and I feel happy about that") or a global extent (for example, "I believe I am a bad person, and feel bad about myself in general"). Psychologists usually regard self-esteem as an enduring personality characteristic ("trait" self-esteem), though normal, short-term variations ("state" self-esteem) also exist. Synonyms or near-synonyms of self-esteem include: self-worth, self-regard, self-respect, and self-integrity. 

Do You Have a Dream? ,Who is the greatest Indian? (After Gandhi, of course)

What is the correct parameter to gauge greatness? This interesting question becomes more so when you apply it to a person rather than a thing. It becomes especially interesting when a poll asks the people to decide who is the “greatest Indian after Mahatma Gandhi”.

The poll, sponsored by Anil Ambani’s Reliance Mobile and conducted by CNN-IBN and the History channel, both owned by Network 18 group, is open to Indian citizens and has a simple voting process. Call the number assigned to your choice to register your vote. You can also vote online.

Among the 50 choices are:

Bhimrao Ambedkar, the champion of the rights of India’s disenfranchised, particularly its “lower” and “backward” castes, as well as Dalits, or what the rest of the world knows as “untouchables.” He is also the man behind India’s constitution.

Jawaharlal Nehru, India’s first prime minister, whose descendants control India’s ruling party and are often considered the first family of the country.

APJ Abdul Kalam, India’s former president and a well known scientist. Kalam is also credited for India’s nuclear programme.

Mother Teresa, the Albanian nun, founder of the Missionaries of Charity and winner of the 1979 Nobel Peace Prize.

AR Rahman, the Oscar-winning music director, known for his work in the critically acclaimed film “Slumdog Millionaire”.

Amitabh Bachchan, one of the two leading men in India’s most successful film ever, “Sholay,” and an inveterate pitchman, not to mention the bearer of a cameo appearance in Baz Luhrmann’s take on “The Great Gatsby”.

Sachin Tendulkar, one of India’s most famous cricket stars, and a newly minted legislator in India’s parliament.

Interestingly, the list includes the famous painter Maqbool Fida Husain who was, ironically, chased away from the country by right-wing Hindus for painting Hindu gods and Mother India in the nude.

If you are to judge the greatest among them, how do you determine a parameter other than fame? Or entertainment? Isn’t judging Sachin against Mother Teresa — or Amitabh Bachchan — like judging a fish on how well it can climb a tree?

Of course, an Indian can be as proud of Sachin as he can of Kalam. But comparing greatness between men and women from different aspects of Indian society risks putting the average guy in a position that might make him feel a bit disloyal — cricket champion vs. father of the Constitution of India. Isn’t it necessary to distinguish between forms of greatness?

And what about the contention that Gandhi is the greatest Indian ever?

He did teach Indians the power of non-violence in the face of the gun, and let’s not forget that there were plenty of Indians who thought that affairs of state would go better without him. His assassination in 1948 itself proves that not everyone agreed with his ideas.

Gandhi has come under criticism for a lot of things — his experiments with celibacy and alienating the firebrand leader Subhash Chandra Bose from the Congress party who later founded Azad Hind Fauj (Indian National Army) with the help of the Japanese during World War II to wage an armed struggle against the British.

His detractors also hold him accountable for failing to save Indian nationalists Bhagat Singh, Sukhdev and Rajguru, who were accused of killing the assistant police superintendent John Saunders and hanged.

Also, many people say that Gandhi is the man who was responsible for dividing the newly independent India into India and Pakistan.

As for Ambedkar, he created the reservation system to provide affirmative action for “backward” and underrepresented minorities. In India, where caste remains a major problem to the extent of being the decisive factor in several state elections, even when it is not supposed to exist in a serious democracy, you could read this as a major hindrance to being “great”.

Then there is the matter of the poll. Though Ambedkar seems to be winning with approximately 65 percent of the votes, there have been some odd leaps in the numbers. Example: Kalam overtookKanshiram, another champion of cause of lower castes in a matter of few hours in spite of trailing earlier.

Polls are designed to reveal public opinion, and this one appears to be doing its best to provide that. But a poll also should avoid fixing the winner before it even gets started. In the world’s largest democracy, there probably is a “greatest Indian,” whether for events profound or otherwise. Whether this poll can provide that result is a matter of … public opinion.

How To Gain Control of Your Own Thoughts

Quite often we find ourselves with many negative thoughts going through our mind. These trains of thoughts can become very powerful as we endlessly repeat them in our mind. The problem is that that the more we focus on the thoughts, the more powerful they become. Therefore, it can become very difficult to stop these endless cycles of thoughts.

However, it is definitely possible and these are a few tips to control our thoughts.

1. Make a conscious decision to Stop the thoughts

The problem is that sometimes we attach ourselves to certain ideas and problems, and we subconsciously get a kind of pleasure from going through a certain problem / issue. If we subconsciously keep inviting the thoughts, we will never be able to stop them. Therefore, the first stage is to make a clear and conscious decision to stop the repetition of the thoughts. Be aware of their negative impact and don’t allow them to come any more. This conscious step is an indispensable stage in controlling our thoughts.

2. Look upon the Thoughts as being Outside of yourself.

When we first try to stop the thoughts, it seems very difficult because they feel such a strong part of our mind. Therefore, the second stage is to feel that the thoughts are separate to our self. When a thought appears in your mind, look upon the thought as coming from outside yourself. This is a very powerful way to reduce the impact of thoughts on our mind. Once we realise our thoughts are separate to ourselves it becomes possible to stop them.

3. Who is it who listens to thoughts?

This is a technique to try and discover the origination of your thoughts. Whenever a thought appears, just ask yourself, who is it who is thinking this? What we do is to try and discover the source of thoughts. Through asking this question we realise that there is an “I” which can decide to accept or reject thoughts. By asking this question we will be able to stop the thoughts as soon as they enter. You are not a victim of your own thoughts, it is you who either rejects or gives life to thoughts.

4. Catch thoughts as soon as they appear.

This exercise requires a determined effort on our part. We need to be vigilant and watch every thought that enters our mind. As soon as we see a negative thought enter, we must immediately discard it and refuse to follow it. The more we follow thoughts, the more difficult it becomes to stop them later. Therefore, it is best to catch them as soon as possible.

5. Concentrate on Something else.

If we have a train of thoughts which have gained a stranglehold over our mind, the best solution is often to just try and do something completely different. Don’t just sit around, go and do something which gives you no opportunity to ruminate over your thoughts. By doing this we ignore the thoughts completely, and they lose there hold over us.

“Wrong thoughts are inside us just because we identify ourselves with these thoughts. If we identify with something else, immediately they have to leave us.”

6. Meditation

Meditation is the best way to learn how to control our thoughts. Meditation involves the art of concentration and quietening the mind. In meditation we not only try to control our thoughts but we also can bring to the fore our inner qualities of peace and oneness. If we can invoke the calming power of our own heart, then we use an alternative force to take the place of the negative mind.

“The mind has its own power, and right now this power is stronger than your present eagerness and determination to meditate. But if you can get help from your heart, then gradually you will be able to control your mind. The heart, in turn, gets constant assistance from the soul, which is all light and all power.”

Interesting Snaps

Zing To Do ;Zeal to Learn

These are not quotes ,To dispute the right way and very zing to do , Zeal to learn

Waiting Is For Weight Of Success

success is not comes easily ,it take some long time or else short time ,but until no other solution to achieve that success ,Because we are just playing toys , and just normal persons . Everything is based on god , he just decide what is your result ?, we are just do the work correctly , so we have one more work to get success i.e waiting .

Because waiting gives peace of strong or else power of decreasing ,But it shows definite way ,either it is wrong or right based on our work , In everything or total things are based on waiting , so some times it gives some failures or losses , that is purely comes from their work , but not fails every time , so waiting is for weight of Success

An Exam Concerns Result

Life path is an exam , then no body don't know pass/fail's , We just ready to face the exam in right way , result is not based on our way of attempt ,truly based on our fate and luck ,but somebody can not accept this ,this is one of unbelievable thing on our world , And when we alive on this earth always we face exam even we sleep ,because we are ready to face the challenge on Die or Alive , but we don't know how much time we will pass on life , that's why every thing is user-defined and approximate ,even time and water also,

nobody can not decide this is mine, even god also facing test ,i.e observation of gland world and nature.

So but we are created some of paths like castes and commitments badly , In world some of problems not solved forever , In those problems rarely concerns to nature also , we have no solution for this , but one of approximate solution is we simply follow and ready and dare to face the TEST OR LIFE , because Really life is an enemy , no body can not escape with their life , passed out of way...........